For years Ruth Westheimer, known to millions as Dr. Ruth, has been counseling Americans on how to foster and maintain our most intimate relationships. Now she turns her attention to the role of the grandparent in this comprehensive guide that will help men and women of all ages and backgrounds develop a more rewarding bond with their children's children. In the next decade, more people than ever before will find themselves in the role of grandparent. And in this age of non-traditional families, day-care challenges, and decreasing sexual stereotypes, this role has never been more critical. Employing the characteristic blend of expertise, sound advice, and encouragement that has made her one of today's most trusted dispensers of practical wisdom, Dr. Westheimer shows grandparents how to take advantage of their unique position to help enrich their own lives as well as the lives of their grandchildren's--and not feel overwhelmed in the process. Covering a host of general topics, including how to establish a relationship, managing visits, suggestions for new and unusual activities, and giving wisely, Dr. Westheimer also addresses the increasingly common situations of divorce, non-traditional and multi-cultural families, and what happens when the grandparent becomes the parent. She also pays special tribute to grandfathers, a largely neglected but increasingly important figure in every child's life. As Dr. Westheimer points out, being a grandparent involves not just one, but a series of relationships--with your grandchildren, children, spouse, and in-laws--each with its own complexities. Here she speaks to grandparents of all ages and situations, offering sympathetic advice for those uncomfortable with their new role, as well as for those who welcome every opportunity for involvement in their grandchildren's lives. Written with the assistance of Dr. Steven Kaplan, Grandparenthood is the first guide to grandparenting that offers a parent's perspective as well--an important consideration in achieving a balanced and harmonious relationship between generations. Finally, Dr. Westheimer includes a lengthy resource section listing books, organizations, and websites that offer further information on any number of topics. The perfect gift for a first-time grandparent, as well as for the experienced pro who is looking for a useful reference guide, Grandparenthood will make readers feel more relaxed and secure in this crucial role that offers a chance to rediscover and continue the endless joys of parenting. Includes advice on: * Understanding and accepting the generational differences between your parenting style and that of your children * Seizing the day: making use of opportunities to be a role model, preserve your ethnic heritage, share your own tried-and-true techniques, and improve your relationships with your own children *Celebrating holidays with the entire family, including in-laws * Maintaining long-distance relationships * How to handle visits to your home * Gift-giving ideas, including advice on monetary gifts * Grandparenting a special needs child * Unplanned parenthood: what to do when the child becomes your responsibility

    Introduction, Chapter I: The Grandparent Relationship, Chapter 2: Common Concerns, Chapter 3: Grandparenting: A Developing Relationship, Chapter 4: Created in Our Own Image: Choosing Our Grandparenting Style, Chapter 5: Vital Roles, Chapter 6: Distance Is Only Relative^ Especially If You're the Relative, Chapter 7: It Pays to Visit!, Chapter 8: Giving Wisely, Chapter 9: Families in Many Shapes and Sizes, Chapter 10: Going It Alone: Single-Parent Families, Chapter 11: Until Divorce Do Us Part, Chapter 12: Starting Over: Grandparents as Parents, Chapter 13: Like a Passing Shadow, Afterword, Resources

    Biography

    Ruth K Westheimer is a psychosexual therapist best known for pioneering the field of media psychology with her radio and television shows. While the world has long turned to "Dr. Ruth" for answers to sex-related questions, her doctorate from Columbia Teacher's College is on the study of the family and ever since becoming a grandmother herself, she has devoted part of her recent activities to exploring this stage of human relations, first with a book aimed at children, Dr. Ruth Talks About Grandparents, and then with a documentary, No Missing Links, which examines how grandparents have transmitted traditional values from generation to generation. In the field of sexuality, she continues her private practice in New York City where she resides, and answers people's questions with her syndicated column and on the Internet at drruth.com and parenttime.com. She has two children and three grandchildren.

    Steven Kaplan is currently Associate Professor in Comparative Religion and African Studies at the Hebrew University. He has been a Visiting Fellow at Boston University and Harvard University. His previous books include a co-authored work with Dr. Ruth Westheimer, On Surviving Salvation: The Ethiopian Jewish Family in Transition (1992), and an edited collection, Indigenous Responses to Western Christianity (1995).

    "The guide offers practical tips for having a successful and rewarding relationship with your children's children." -- Lebanon
    "'Dr. Ruth' Westheimer does what she does best, presenting thorough, commonsense, well-organized advice filled with lots of love all around...highly recommended." -- Library Journal
    "The comprehensive guide for grandparenting into the 21st century from the one-and-only Dr. Ruth--a great present for grandparents as well as grandparents-to-be." -- Berkeley Express