1st Edition
Stopping the Violence A Group Model to Change Men's Abusive Attitudes and Behaviors
Help men learn to change abusive behavior!
Stopping the Violence: A Group Model to Change Men’s Abusive Attitudes and Behaviors helps practitioners reduce the negative atmosphere in a batterers’ group for men while adapting to clients’ individual needs, abilities, and levels of motivation. Useful in any type of patient setting, this comprehensive, hands-on guide provides a complete, step-by-step model for a batterer program that includes all of the forms, handouts, tools, and assignments necessary for the treatment process. Pro-feminist, cognitive, and behavioral in its orientation, this program works to eliminate the mindset that dominates, controls, and leads to the battering of women.
The focus throughout the treatment process described in Stopping the Violence is not only on ending physical violence, but addressing what causes it. The exercises and suggestions in this program will teach your clients how emotional abuse, verbal abuse, substance abuse problems, mental health issues, and entitled and controlling attitudes contribute to and lead to battering. You will also find methods to help clients learn to take responsibility for their actions and discover if their childhoods have had an impact on their assumption of patriarchal and controlling attitudes. In addition, Stopping the Violence offers exercises on building self-confidence, self-esteem, self-control, and emotional support for your clients.
This guide offers other valuable suggestions and exercises, such as:
- an explanation of 12 educational units to be presented by the therapist, including such topics as abuse and its effects, anger regulation, stress management, shame and empowerment, assertiveness, communication, and conflict resolution
- showing the client how to and why he should develop an increased realization of the impact of his abuse
- assisting the client in learning to monitor his internal and external escalation-to-violence cues
- creating a supportive group atmosphere that will decrease men’s shame and isolation and increase their ability to feel empathy for themselves and others
- providing a reading list with additional resources that clients can use to enhance their treatment
- Overview of the Program
- Chapter I: Group Leadership
- Chapter II: The Intake Procedure
- Part 1: Conducting the Intake
- Part 2: The Intake Handouts
- Understanding Your Anger
- Types of Abusive Behavior
- How Violence May Occur in a Relationship
- Using Time-Outs
- Domestic Abuse Group Description
- Escalation Questionnaire--M
- Abuse Questionnaire--W
- Safety Plan
- Chapter III: The Individual Member Tasks
- Part 1: Facilitating the Individual Member Tasks
- Task I: Introduction
- Task II: Exercise Program
- Task III: Individual Member Goals
- Task IV: Escalation Prevention Plan
- Task V: Time-Out Plan
- Task VI: Abuse Inventory
- Task VII: Mid-Group Evaluation
- Task VIII: Family of Origin and Childhood
- Task IX: Amends Letter
- Task X: Aftercare Plan and Final Feedback
- Task XI: Violent Incident Assessment
- Task XII: Violation of Sobriety Contract Assessment
- Part 2: The Domestic Abuse Group Member Booklet
- How to Use This Booklet
- Domestic Abuse Group Description
- Group Goals, Rules, and Expectations
- How To Participate in Group
- Domestic Abuse Group Members' Tasks: Task I: Introduction
- Task II: Exercise Program
- Task III: Individual Member Goals
- Task IV: Escalation Prevention Plan
- Task V: Time-Out Plan
- Task VI: Abuse Inventory
- Task VII: Mid-Group Evaluation
- Task VIII: Family of Origin and Childhood
- Task IX: Amends Letter
- Task X: Aftercare Plan and Final Feedback
- Task XI: Violent Incident Assessment
- Task XII: Violation of Sobriety Contract Assessment
- Reading List for Domestic Abuse Group Members
- Chapter IV: The Educational Units
- Part 1: How to Use the Educational Units
- Unit 1: Abuse and Its Affects
- Unit 2: Stress and Its Affects
- Unit 3: Anger
- Unit 4: Self-Talk
- Unit 5: Shame and Empowerment
- Unit 6: Culture of Origin
- Unit 7: Assertiveness
- Unit 8: Communication and Conflict Resolution
- Unit 9: Self-Esteem and Healthy Relationships
- Unit 10: Parenting
- Unit 11: Women's Perspective on Abuse and Violence
- Unit 12: The Ongoing Recovery Process
- Part 2: The Educational Handouts
- Unit 1: Abuse and Its Affects
- Types of Abusive Behavior
- How Violence May Occur in a Relationship
- Myths About Domestic Abuse
- Perceived Advantages/Disadvantages of Using Physical Force in a Relationship
- Effects of Violence and Abuse in Women
- Violence, Abuse, and Their Effects on Children
- Excuses/Justifications for Becoming Violent with Women and Others
- The Place of Generalized Violence in Our Lives
- Unit 2: Stress and Stress Management
- What Is Stress?
- Changes and Stress
- Symptoms That Stress Can Trigger
- Stress Management Techniques
- Progressive Muscle Relaxation
- Stress and the Holidays
- Unit 3: Anger
- Understanding Your Anger
- Anger Analysis
- Escalation Prevention Plan/De-Escalation Strategies
- Using Time-Outs
- Anger Journal
- Unit 4: Self-Talk
- Self-Talk
- Positive Self-Talk and Anger
- Self-Talk Log
- Unit 5: Shame and Empowerment
- Shame and Empowerment
- Shame
- Signals that Shame May Be Present
- Potential Effects in Coming from a Shame-Based Family
- The Cycles of Shame and Empowerment
- Defenses
- Moving Toward Empowerment
- Unit 6: Culture of Origin
- Male Socialization
- Control
- Types of Abusive Behavior
- Unit 7: Assertiveness
- Styles of Relating to Others
- Aggressive Behavior
- Verbal and Non-verbal Elements of Assertive, Passive, and Aggressive Behavior
- Assertiveness Synonyms
- Assertiveness Grid
- The Process of Becoming More Ass
Biography
David J Decker
