Stereotypically, science and emotion are diametric opposites: one is cold and unfeeling, the other soft and nebulous; one is based on proven facts while the other is based on inexplicable feelings and “never the twain shall meet,” until now.
John Gottman delves into the unquantifiable realm of love, armed with science and logic, and emerges with the knowledge that relationships can be not only understood, but also predicted as well. Based on research done at his Love Lab and other laboratories, Gottman has discovered that the future of love relationships can be predicted with a startling 91% success rate. These predictions can help couples to prevent disasters in their relationships, recognize the signs of a promising relationship, and perhaps more importantly, recognize the signs of a doomed one.
Principia Amoris also introduces Love Equations, a mathematical modeling of relationships that helps understand predictions. Love Equations are powerful tools that can prevent relationship distress and heal ailing relationships. Readers learn about the various research and studies that were done to discover the science behind love, and are treated to a history of the people, ideas, and events that shaped our current understanding. They also learn about:
• The “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”
• 45 natural principles of love
• 5 couple types
• 5 recipes for good relationships
• And much more!
Just as science helped us to understand the physical world, it is helping us to understand the emotional world as well. Using the insights in this book, mental health professionals can meaningfully help their distressed clients, as well as better understand why a relationship is failing or succeeding. Appropriate for the curious non-mental health professional as well, Principia Amoris is a must-have on any bookshelf!
Table of Contents
1. A Science of Love? Really? 2. There are Three Phases of Love in a Lifetime of Love 3. Imagining “The Love Equations” 4. Love and Equations Do Go Together 5. Our Final Love Equations 6. The Invisible Factors that Deeply Affect Love 7. There are Only Three Ways to Love Well 8. Getting a Feeling for the Love Equation Parameters: Becoming a Better Observer of Couples’ Interactions 9. When to Bail out of a Bad Relationship: With a Little Help from Algebra 10. As Good As It Gets 11. The Rest of Emotion 12. Emotional Turbulence 13. Five Recipes for a Delicious Relationship, and Proof that It Works